Grapefruit’s Podcast Episode 1: How to deal with information asymmetry 打破信息差的实用办法

Xianhua Lou |信箱:letter@loulin.org

Grapefruit Podcast is a show that focuses on personal growth, lifestyles, and everything worth of our intellectual growth. This episode focuses on the uneven flow of information that is often the cuase of wrongful decision-making.

《葡萄柚与生活》一个专注于个人成长与实用洞察的中英双语播客。本期话题是:“打破信息差”,我们怎么才能实实在在地,打破信息差。

信息差,究竟藏在哪?
信息差不是只有金融圈、科技圈才有,其实我们每个人都可能是“被蒙在鼓里的那一个”。以下这三个例子,也许你就会感同身受:
案例1:同样是跳槽,有人拿了30%的涨薪
你在网上海投简历,对方HR甚至不回复;而你的前同事已经通过“内推渠道”直达面试,HR还主动加微信问意向。信息差点一:他知道去哪儿找内推渠道(如内推公众号、行业交流群),你只知道“boss直聘”。

信息差点二:他知道怎么“关键词优化简历”,你还在用毕业时的模板。
案例2:副业搞钱,有人已经悄悄做起咨询服务
有个朋友文笔好,已经通过公众号、知乎专栏接稿子、开写作课,一个月多赚3000;你文笔也不差,但每天刷手机下班累瘫,不知道“自己能靠什么变现”。信息差点一:她知道哪儿有靠谱的写作变现社区(如“灵感胶囊”、“写作营地”),你还以为副业只有摆摊。
信息差点二:她懂得打造“可见作品”,你没有留下任何“别人可以看到的你”。
案例3:升职考核,你被“无声淘汰”
你觉得自己埋头苦干,公司却升了那个“会汇报、懂包装”的同事。其实你不知道,汇报和展示,本身就是职场里的隐性信息竞争。信息差点:他知道“如何做项目总结”“怎么做成果PPT”“怎么向上对齐目标”,你只知道把事做完。

打破信息差的具体做法
信息差不是完全无法克服的,它就像迷雾。你越主动探索、建立系统,它就越被驱散。以下五招,每一招都给你具体可操作的方法和案例:

1. 打破社交壁垒:学会建立“信息互助圈”
怎么做?主动找到与你目标相关的微信群、豆瓣小组、知识星球、线下分享会。不只是“潜水”,而是主动提问、总结、分享资源。
2. 精准提问,才有精准反馈
怎么做?不要问“我该怎么转行”,而要问“我想转行做内容运营,现在掌握了××技能,下一步建议怎么做?”准备背景 + 意图 + 问题,形成结构化提问模板。
工具推荐:《如何提问才有人理你》《提问的艺术》(豆瓣有精简笔记版)
实操案例:阿美在小红书找内容博主请教,不是问“我能做自媒体吗”,而是发了她的笔记图文,并请教选题策略。对方非常愿意给建议,还推荐了配图工具。

3. 建立高效信息输入系统,而不是“瞎刷”
怎么做?
用 RSS 工具(如Feedly、Inoreader)订阅你想关注的行业资讯源;关注3-5个优质公众号/简报,每天10分钟扫一遍;每周花1小时复盘自己“获取到的3条高质量信息”。如何避免信息焦虑?
信息源要少而精;不要全读,学会“标签式扫读”:跳读、收藏、关键词筛选。推荐工具:

4. 建立“输出导向”的工作习惯,倒逼成长
你可以每周发一次小红书、知乎、微博长帖,记录你对某个问题的理解;做“项目型学习”:比如不只学数据分析,而是自己做一个“房价分析可视化”项目;
坚持每周写1份“个人成长周报”,发给信任的朋友/社群反馈。
改掉低效学习的坏习惯:
光收藏不实践 → 每看一篇内容,写一条总结+一个行动;
刷完就算学会 → 做一个输出(帖子/音频/短视频)才算“掌握”;
知识记在脑里 → 搭知识地图 + 笔记系统才不会遗忘。

5. 模仿 + 反思:习惯是可以训练出来的
建立高效工作习惯的方法:
《原子习惯》的“三步法”:设置诱因→做得轻松→建立反馈;
番茄工作法:25分钟专注,5分钟休息;
时间日志法:记录自己在干嘛,一周后分析低效时间分布。
实际改变案例:A某下班总是滑手机到凌晨。他尝试“关灯+耳机听播客30分钟”,逐步切换大脑节奏;并在Notion上记录第二天ToDo,减少临睡焦虑。一个月后,他睡眠更好了,还多读了两本书。

信息差的确是一个不公平的存在,但幸运的是,它不像学历、家庭背景那样难以改变。只要你愿意动手、愿意连接、愿意迭代,就能不断打破信息边界,走出属于自己的路。
与其焦虑别人“知道太多”,不如开始练习“自己知道得更精准”。
我是葡萄柚,我们下期播客见!

吸引力法则与健康生活

「葡萄柚与生活」:生活|摄影|文学|正念心理;loulin.org

大家好,欢迎收听本期的播客节目【葡萄柚与生活】,我是你的主播葡萄柚。在这个快节奏、压力巨大的时代,我们总是被“努力”、“拼搏”、“内卷”这些词压得喘不过气。那有没有一种方法,不是努力100%,而是调整内在状态,让生活慢下来,同时变得更好?今天我们就来聊一聊“吸引力法则”,英文是 “The Law of Attraction”,看看它是否真的能帮我们从困境中找到突破口。

首先,我们来解释一下什么是“吸引力法则”。

吸引力法则是一个心理学概念,很多人认为它是宇宙运作的一种方式。它的核心思想是:

Like attracts like. (同类相吸)

What you focus on expands.(你专注的事物会扩大)

Thoughts become things.(思想会成真)

用中文来讲,就是:你专注什么,你就吸引什么。你越是专注于积极的、充满希望的事物,你就越容易吸引到这些能量来到你生活中。

举个例子,如果你每天醒来第一件事就是抱怨工作、担心上司、焦虑通勤,那么你的一整天可能都会陷入负能量当中;反之,如果你早上给自己几分钟,静下心来想一想自己想要的生活,设定一个正向的目标,那么你的大脑会更容易捕捉到积极的机会和信号。

这种理念被很多畅销书推广,比如《秘密》(The Secret)这本书,强调的是“visualization”(可视化)和“affirmations”(正向自我肯定)对实现目标的帮助。

我们该如何在生活中实践吸引力法则?

那我们怎么把吸引力法则运用到实际生活中呢?特别是在我们面临的高压职场和复杂人生中,它真的有用吗?

答案是——“用得对,它可能真的有帮助。”

第一步:清晰地知道你要什么

If you don’t know what you want, how can the universe help you get it?

很多人只是想着“我不想再加班了”“我不想再焦虑了”,但却没有认真想过:“我真正想要的生活是什么样的?”你可以每天花5分钟,用写日记的方式写下你想要的生活画面:

我希望每天有稳定而有创造力的工作

我希望下班后有时间运动、陪家人

我希望我能带着平和而自信的心态去面对挑战

第二步:调整你的语言和思想

我们大多数人每天的自我对话是负面的,比如“我肯定搞砸了”、“我做不到”、“我太普通了”。这些话语会在潜意识中不断被强化。

试着换个方式说:

“我正在成长中,我每天都变得更好。”

“我值得拥有平衡的生活。”

“我能从容应对我的工作。”

这就是所谓的“正向肯定语”(Positive affirmations),每天重复,会逐渐改变我们对自己的认知。

第三步:行动 + 信任

吸引力法则并不是“光想不干”。它要求你先对结果产生积极的信念,然后采取小而坚定的行动。比如你想跳槽去一个更健康的职场,不是只靠想象,而是:

明确你想去什么样的公司

开始更新简历

学新技能

同时保持一种内在的信任:机会正在靠近我

这种“信念 + 行动”的结合才是吸引力法则真正的力量所在。

如何用吸引力法则改善职场与生活平衡

现在我们来谈谈——现实中我们很多人都被困在一种状态中:“下班很晚”“通勤很远”“工作内容重复而没有意义”。有没有方法能通过吸引力法则,帮我们走出这个怪圈?

这里有几个具体建议:

1. 设定“心态工作模式”

每天早上不要一睁眼就刷手机,而是留出2-3分钟静坐,闭眼想象今天的一天是如何平衡又有效的:

* 我高效完成了重要的任务

* 我中午有短暂休息

* 下班我准时离开,去健身或和朋友聚会

这种心理预演会潜移默化地影响你当天的决策。

2. 建立“冥想 + 可视化”习惯

每晚睡前,闭上眼睛,想象你未来想拥有的生活已经实现了。配合深呼吸,想象你已经生活在那个状态之中。

比如:

* 你下班时间充裕,阳光洒在脸上,你走在公园小路上

* 你工作时被同事尊重,你带着热情面对挑战

这不是逃避现实,而是在训练大脑去识别和创造这样的机会。

其实很多成功人士都在有意或无意中使用吸引力法则。

比如:

* 奥普拉(Oprah Winfrey) 曾公开表示:“你的人生就是你思想的回应。”她从童年贫困中走出来,靠的就是坚定的信念和积极的心理力量。

* 金·凯瑞(Jim Carrey) 曾在无名时给自己开了一张1000万美元的支票,写上“电影片酬”,几年后他真的接到了这样的片约。

最后给大家一些Tips:

1. 每天写3件你感恩的事情

2. 制作一个“心愿视觉板”(Vision Board),贴在你看得见的地方

3. 与积极的人交流,不让负能量绑架你的思维

4. 相信“我值得”,并每天提醒自己这一点

吸引力法则不是万能钥匙,但它是一种值得尝试的心态工具。在内卷的时代,真正的出路也许不是“更卷”,而是“更清醒地知道自己想要什么,并主动去靠近它”。

感谢大家收听本期播客,如果你喜欢今天的内容,欢迎订阅、分享,也可以留言告诉我你想听的下一个话题。我们下期节目再见!

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回顾

对于武汉,东湖最令我印象深刻,是适合散步的地方,风景优美,那晚回访,东湖却不复往昔的宁静,也许是宣传的多了,被许多人发现了它的美,它的宁静被打扰了,从此此处变成了一片喧嚣。

心渡

大海在天上,云是海浪

不知名的人在桥栏边

温润的水岸边

晚夜微暖的风

远望着,纯然的青峰

川行的人流间

有位渡翁

行舟在这片人海间

无名的树木,还有多少岁月青葱

暗淡的倒影,自行车行过匆匆

也许,那无名的树林间

也涌过这夏日的水潮

从此后

心中的浪,还有多少年岁涨伏


Xianhua Lou
2020 湖北

The Years

曾经在熙攘的街头穿行,戴耳机,疾风驶过的人流中,偶尔迎风流泪,因为戴墨镜,所以不太在意。和朋友一同在东湖骑行,中途休息,我坐在椅子上望着落日发呆,身后是往来的骑者,朋友特地带了移动音箱,仿古式的,样式别致,播放的是一首法文的歌,我勉强学法语发音,许多都念错了,用手机拍下了那湖面上的落日。那时已是晚夏,湖边的微风拂过,归去时我走在后面些,旁边有自动售水机,走进才发现灯光下都是昆虫,好在水不受影响。对于武汉,东湖最令我印象深刻,是适合散步的地方,风景优美,那晚回访,东湖却不复往昔的宁静,也许是宣传的多了,被许多人发现了它的美,它的宁静被打扰了,从此此处变成了一片喧嚣。

这个朋友租住在一居室的公寓,布局很温馨。这让我想起,在故乡的时候,祖母看到我睡最小的房间,便同我说,等我去学校了,就搬到小房间睡,她觉得小房间很温馨。朋友的书桌上堆放着备课的资料,上面是学生与同事写的贺卡与明信片,多是感谢信。现在寄信的人少了。写信仿佛可以让时间走的慢一些。

美国疫情刚受关注时,NBC电视台放慰问卡片销售攀升的消息,许多人为逝者的亲人寄慰问卡片,是比电子化信息更能表达关怀之意的仪式。看到电视上播放的卡片,想起了在我的母亲曾短暂经营的文具店里,我曾总是翻看明信片,偶尔看到信上预先印好的小句子,大多数携语,心里总感到亲切。

很少有机会重访东湖,也许是怕独行,熙攘的人流间,独自行走会略显突兀,好在东湖总是什么都见过,不论是喧嚣,还是宁静。


家中

那时,也许是还在成长着,对夏日有亲切感,当然其灼热的午后除外,第一次去北京的时候,是几年前了,近秋,但还是炎热异常,是干热,所以穿长袖长裤也适当,汗水较易干?曾经,在家乡的夏日,自己用一个午后拍照——用三脚架拍摄。现在摄影师不容易找,所以自己拍。

搬回家的时候,做好了去沙哈拉的准备,小的城市与年轻人不大相符,但因为房租的缘故,所以回家乡还是较理性的选择。我用手机控制镜头,沉默中,只有窗外知了的声音陪伴我最久,像生命的鸣奏曲。

夏日的夜

以前没有空调的时候,夏夜里,总是吹一整夜的风扇,时间久了,很容易感冒。也因此羡慕表弟家有空调—那还是两千年刚刚过的时候。

图、文:楼林

以前没有空调的时候,夏夜里,总是吹一整夜的风扇,时间久了,很容易感冒。也因此羡慕表弟家有空调—那还是两千年刚刚过的时候。

上大学后,学校的宿舍没有空调,武汉的夏夜闷热异常,简直无法入眠,因此有人去网吧开包间睡觉—因为有空调,也不怕不卫生,有传染疾病的风险。有一天实在是静谧的晚夜,窗外是南风,有室友二人结伴到顶楼的露台去睡觉—因为凉快,他们就睡在地上。青年好像就这么能够折腾,心里反而很觉得幸福,因为是自己做主,不怕有家长说不能睡在地上,会感冒。头一次有主人翁的意识。

后来有一个室友很快就从露台上退了下来。“蚊子太多了。”他说。

后来学校安装了空调。但一百元的电费,只开了两晚的空调,就用完了,要去充电费。“这怎么在收费,这么快。”舍友惊讶道。不节能的空调确实很耗电。因此再热也只能省着点开。

在长江北,夏日蒸发旺盛,空气黏稠又闷热,不禁同奶奶说:“这里的夏天太闷热了。” “夏天就是穿衣服方便。”

过冬天的时候,盼着夏天早些来。夏天来的时候,我在静夜里,想起过去来。

Somewhere

Standing before a souvenir store in the palace museum, though the postcards depicting palaces Chinese imperial members lived in a stately air were still sold hanging on the stock stall, I was no longer interested in buying them, instead, I had watched those cards for a while and then gone.

by Tome Loulin

“Tome Loulin, you seem like coming back from beach after vacation.” A female colleague had teased me saying, referring my wearing: a training tank top and a very short short. Though a bit embarrassed but trying not to be seemed so, I smiled to her but said nothing. That was a summer and the sunlight very strong. Because of our good quarterly performances in sales, we got a group-vacation as a reward. Current-drifting was proposed as the recreational program and permitted.

While in the bus on the way to the valley where the drifting program is located, a male guide bragged that he was honored as the king of karaoke because of his good voice but everyone in the bus said nothing in response. He was not at all feeling embarrassed, instead, he was a bit excited and almost shouted to us, saying: “ you don’t believe me? How about letting me sing some songs I am good at to you?” “No, thanks, we’d love to sleep.” Some tourist in the bus had replied to him suddenly. But he had sung the songs he liked anyway.
After hearing his singing, a few had thanked him for his performance out of politeness then he had sat down and become quiet.

While a young woman was ready to speak and to raise her body, another older one had interrupted her saying: “ this girl is newly recruited by our company to work as a guide and she will read aloud some safety guides to you. Should there be any inconvenience occurred later, I would beg for your pardon.” Then in the bus was a silence and the young woman started reading: “If there were anyone in our tour group having encountered any emergency, please let us know.” The way the word emergency was read by her in Mandarin was like emergen-seex in English. It may be due to a sudden change of lines on her draft. Three women seating in front of me had burst into laughters. But unaffected, the young girl resumed reading. The bus was ascending on the highway. Outside of the window were mountains green-covered in a row.

After arriving at the valley, I said to my colleagues that due to my own concerns, I hope myself to remain on the land and to simply watch them drifting in the currents. But they had already bought my ticket days ago so they insisted me to join them together, otherwise, it would be a waste of money.

Before hearing that we would go to Yichang, the city where three gorges dam was located, to drift in the river currents, I had searched on the internet for information about that game. Only until I was utterly shocked by the information I got, which were overwhelmingly negative, depicting it as a risky game for inexperienced people to play and so on, had I stopped browsing.

Though that day is a brilliant and hot summer day but the water in the valley where we prepared to drift was as chilling as ice. With wave after wave hitting our body while we were on our course forward, I was much more concerned about the rocks in that small river so that every time when there was a descending, we bend our heads as low as to our thighs in order to protect our heads.

The whole course lasted about hours. And after I landed, finishing the journey, I felt extremely grateful that this had ended but some colleagues seemed unsatisfied and there was a female one said to us that she planned to go back drifting with her friends the next day.

The year I graduated from university was a year of endless traveling. Classmates had invited me to go to an amusement park in Wuhan which I rarely knew to play for the purpose of honoring our graduation.

While waiting in a line snaked about almost hundreds meters long to ride the roller coaster of which I was scared. But anyway, the ticket had been already bought so I had better not waste the money I spent, a classmate persuaded me saying.

Seeing people in front of me both excited and scared, I felt it was normal to be that way because I felt the same. But they my classmate said that it was better to have tried than never. If not now, when?

Media in China had previously criticized a phenomenon that most of the tourists in China had embossed their names on the walls of famous attractions, turning those in cultural ruins. That was almost a decade ago when selfies were not much prevalent and people’s urge to create proofs to show they had been to such places was strong. Now with the advancement of photography, those who want to have some thing to prove their existence no longer need to use such ways to show their travel histories. Souvenirs were no longer sophisticated things to them.

I had watched Palace Museum photographs on the postcards, alway under bright sunny days and seemed solemn. The yellow and dark red tone appeared on the postcards made a nostalgic air in my childhood memories.

Standing before a souvenir store in the palace museum, though the postcards depicting palaces Chinese imperial members lived in a stately air were still sold hanging on the stock stall, I was no longer interested in buying them, instead, I had watched those cards for a while and then gone.

Sending postcards to a close friend or a family member while traveling was once a regardful ritual, a means to show our considerate thoughts and regards to our friends. Now, with the advancement of the Internet, people are having less and less concrete memories relating to their family members and friends.

While during the pandemic, there was a news reporting that the sales of the card of condolence had surged, mainly in use to send people’s deep sympathies to the people they befriended. Receiving a physical thing is no same to a digital one.

Classmates in university had organized a camping. Before that, I had never climbed a mountain and though that experience is as ordinary and simple as it could be, with the passion and curiosity of youth, I had remembered that journey a faith-like one.

Where are we going? I had asked my grandmother while holding her hands walking in a dark night when I was little.

“Somewhere we call home.”

Slouching toward Wherever the Sun Shines

‘Sunshine cleaning’, a movie I watched years ago, presented stories about different women who divorced and tried to restore their savaged lives back to normal with positive thinking and challenge taking traits, and its characters’ willingness to endure and change. For most of us, life may be seen as living with challenges that need to be overcome, and we manage and get through. At that point, every person may be seen as a sort of hero.

the weather, in the Northern Hemisphere is getting much warmer and the sun much brighter and shiner, so shine I feel enlightened, physically. Do you love summer time? Answers may vary but I thought, most people may not dislike sunny days. Sunshine is bright, clean, and loving, and also evokes positive feelings. Looking on the windowsill in my room, full of potted greenies and flowers, which are blossoming progressively like burning kindles. Glistening lights are basking in my room, making it finer and softer. I feel happier staying in sunlit room maybe because that gives people a warmer imagination for our future lives, and strength to overcome the hardships we face.

I’ve always remembered that summer my father took me a tour outside of a elementary school when I was six-year old. His belly bulged and he wore a dark-red T-shirt. Leading the way to that school, on the trail outside the school fence, he turned his face back, facing me, slightly smiled and raised his forearm pointing towards the front-door of the school, saying that he prepared to let me study at that school. I felt his pride while he talking, saw swarms of pupils playing on the playground, crazily, enchantingly. That was summer; the small path we walked outside the school was surrounded by walls of burning ivies and greens. That was an afternoon, the most clear and exhausting one in my memory. “Dad.” I remembered saying and he answered slowly, softly and gently. “That’s a good school.” He said.

After a fierce argument between my parents, my mother had temporarily taken me back to her hometown that year so I didn’t go to that school. Every September when the school year began, I remembered that walk with my father, his gentle tone with his will to enroll me to that school. I didn’t forget though he had never mention that again. But I know as long as summer continues to come I won’t forget that summer when he walked with me beside that school, with water-clean light.

After graduating from university, I had tenanted with one of my schoolmates, in an apartment near a lake in Guanggu, a newly constructed borough in the city of Wuhan. While in university, roommates were eager to find jobs to earn money. “Whatever the job is, I will do; and where there is a job, there is hope.” A roommate joked saying. But if one said he or she doesn’t want to find some work to do then, that won’t be true. They need money to go to restaurants, to buy extra outfits to increase their attractiveness and to show their power. Most of the students I encountered then wanted to work, to improve their living standards.

So hurry was I to find a work to do then that I was lost. I had met a friend, Bee who in his middle thirties, was working as freelance. In his age with an unstable working position, life was fragile and depending on luck. Though getting days by, he loved outings in mountainsides and thus invited me to go outside biking.

We decided to go to Jiangxia, a mountainous suburb in Wuhan, to have our afternoons pasted. We bought transit tickets and rented bikes to go into the forest in the mountain. There were trees and the sun shining sharply, making us sweating like mad. But he loved biking and often turned his face back to me encouraging me to compete with him on the mountain path on which we biked. There were raspberry bushes, whose twigs were full of thrones. Though unwashed, he picked those berries and ate happily, smiling to me. That was summer; there was sunlight. I knew life could be hard. He struggled to find a well-payed job to get him being able to stay in Wuhan. He said he had never thought about buying house in Wuhan, so expensive that he said he would never bother considering. “Do you know where can a person find a well payed job?” He had asked me. Struggling to make my ends meet, I said I didn’t know either. While sitting on the bench in the neighborhood where then I resided, I saw his face darkened, though that was a bright afternoon and the sun was near setting.

He said he always loved days we spent on biking together in Jiangxia’s mountainside because he felt he was alive by our energetic defiance towards money. Though we were both not living high-standardly, we felt happy and that was summer.

There is the light and it has come into my room.

As Happiness Is the Romanticization of Ephemerality

It was afternoon I walked and cycled on the lanes around East Lake. ‘Green lanes’ square-shaped signs showed. Trees and greens were everywhere as well as people cycling around the lake.

Breezing around the lanes, I saw happy faces as well as saddened, serious ones.

I wasn’t alone; I was with my friend.

There was a teen-age girl standing before the rock-made railing gazing at the surface of the lake, apparently saddened by her personal affairs. There was an unspeakable strength of saying nothing at all around her that could be seen by all passing her by. Had not life silenced people’s ability to express their feelings, they might still be willing to dream.Consciously saying nothing when one was obviously overwhelmed by something is a learned behavior. Learned helplessness, they, psychologists, called. Who had taught them that skill of not expressing their feelings? Mom usually says nothing while her eyes are apparently filled with untold uneasiness as though she have gone through a lot. Idling around the room then sitting on the armchair, mostly she was simply sitting, motionless, silent.

“Find something enjoyable to do, that may do you good.”

She will not listen.

Riding bicycles going towards wherever I was aimlessly was what I thought living. “I love to see you smile.” Zon said while sitting astride a bike looking at me, smiling.

I returned that smile and proceeded going into the deep forest in Jiangxia’s green lanes.

“How could a place be beautiful like this.” Zon meant the serenity of the forest we are in. “So serene that it seemed like a miracle.”

A miracle; It truly was, to me and Zon. So tender was to breeze around the trails in the forest on which we rode our cycles as free a experience as no one could ever have that I thought chancing our ability to understand very originality of living is a way to learn what is really worth having.

While resuming to go into the forest deeper, we expect no thing though still feeling fulfilled. Happiness to me seemed to be be that easy to obtain when we just noticed that there was a loquat tree beside the lane on the hillside and picked up some produce it bore to taste then that we didn’t realize it was such precious a thing to be cherished.

Before night people riding bicycles on a bridge over East Lake.

The loquat fruits we picked weren’t much tasty but they were everywhere; other tourists were idling picking those too. No one had said anything; they were eating, searching there for the next source of matured loquat fruit which could be much easier picked. Some seemingly delicious produce those trees bore were on the boughs too affluent to ignore and too high to be picked, about which we feel pitied.

So ephemeral was our trying to remember those sparkling bits in our lives in which we found our consolation when feeling hurt that we didn’t realize just that suddenly a moment we no longer knew what that very happiness was felt like.

Cool winds before night at that time in the forest of Jiangxia flowing through us made us aware again about our very nature of originality.

It had occurred to me that the less we expected about what we might be encountering around next corner of the mountainside, the more meaningful experience we might gain.

On the way home, seeing our shadows first, riding on the bikes, we felt thankful that we were on the right side of the lane at the right time as profound a feeling as a person could never imagine to experience.

And if in another portion of my heart I could still feel that part of me at that time, That smiling face of mine could still be felt there as much real as I could ever be.

在香港的夜班巴士与武汉的夜巷

俯瞰西湖。与在黄鹤楼时的感受一样,又想起在香港大佛寺上看到的纪念铭,买了串佛珠,店员同我用粤语讲多谢,不会粤语,也不适合讲英文,因此一阵沉默,突然自己也像默剧演员,只用眼神表达情感。

当地球得了痛症,冬天,成了巨大的冷库

“人生是一连串纵横捭阖的把戏,要研究,要时时刻刻的注意,一个人才能维持他优越的地位。”

坐在香港的夜班巴士上,冬天的香港不太冷,明穿一件黑色运动服,巴士开屯门,车上的人都睡了,他望着窗外,闪过几栋公屋,路边都是山景,有许多沿街广告牌。“申请破产,即日起停止追债。”一则破产的广告,看的出神。心里一阵剧痛。

天空好像是灰色的,天桥下的汽车,左边塞的满满的,右边却空空的。他走过天桥,准备叫车去

灰尘弥漫的夜晚,路上都是灰暗的拖车,像往生开来的车,巨大的声响似打战一样,比打仗还慌乱,生厌,灰夜里城市也不比战争残墟,没有同情可言。

明同贝达见面的时候,迟了些,看得出不愉快的神色,虽总会有理由来解释,但还是没出声,解释反而恶化,沉默。是什么样的人,只有自己知道,其余都不大相干。

贝达的眉毛有些粗,眼睛表达不满,声音粗但锋利,难以想象。问到明现在工作的怎么样,声如利刃。慌张,反而忍住。随口道“还好。”

“去吃些什么东西吧?”

“也可以,找个人多的地方。”

过马路时全部都是等待,路过的是装满灰尘的拖车。一辆一辆轰隆隆,没有尽头,仿佛整个城市在重生,所以需要大动干戈。似从死亡里堆出来的生命,人类文明也似沙滩上的蜃楼,幻灭如影,也没人太在意?或是因总可以再来?太阳有照射不到的角落。黑暗中,毁灭在进行中。或许最后总会有人记得,也许没人记得,后果也是暂时的,没有什么不是暂时的。无人的夜晚,只有货车在路上,明看到夜间开工的工地,好像一切都很赶,赶着完工,再赶着被毁灭?他站在路边,同初次见面的陌生人等红灯。

不吃了吧。

都脱口而出。

归途,空气中都是施工灰尘,不能呼吸,黄色的夜灯,照着马路上,像沙漠,夜的沙漠,滚滚而来的黄尘,武汉有时也像沙漠,黑暗的夜,一辆又一辆的车,明感觉像提前经历了一次,也许以前梦见过。

爱,在这寒冷黑暗的地方,没有一丝发芽的能力,许多年后想起,也不知道是不是曾真的爱过,或许人总该是孤独?

人们期望被更深入的了解,这个世界上,谁能真正了解谁?因此总是之在,愉快或不愉快过后,看着骑车离开的那个背影,连再见也不及说,说出来又仿佛太郑重,因此手也没抬起来。曾有人对明说,记得曾爱过你。再想起,总是在虚无缥缈间,这么大了,也不至太相信这些。生命中某个匆忙的夜晚,偶尔走过这荒流的人群,也许偶尔也疑心……是不是应该再看一次?

也许人生应该独自走,偶尔想起,也回过头来,微笑。距离隔的刚刚好,没太远也没有太近。

旧忆

去杭州的时候,只去了西湖,其他都寥寥。正好是周末,人潮汹涌。走上雷峰塔的时候, 我看到台阶上的电梯,不禁感叹。如同Rico看到黄鹤楼里的电梯时的感受。与时俱进?

俯瞰西湖。与在黄鹤楼时的感受一样,又想起在香港大佛寺上看到的纪念铭,买了串佛珠,店员同我用粤语讲多谢,不会粤语,也不适合讲英文,因此一阵沉默,突然自己也像默剧演员,只用眼神表达情感。

我也喜欢沉默不做声的微笑,就像你又从我身边走过,我也同你一起走。

在中国的夏天

喜欢坐公交车,看车窗外行人来来往往,正在最美的年纪,歌曲在最美的片段,戴着墨镜,留下的眼泪也不太担心。“有多少恨就有多少爱。”宇喜欢唱五月天的温柔。大学寝室可以看到天主堂的十字架,上坡路,每次归途,都像登山,反倒很快乐。

情愿过夏天,总比冷天穿太多强。在北京的时候,有新闻媒体报道是最热的记录。倒是赶上了记录。溪对我说。总知道确实的热,但怕晒伤还是穿长袖长裤。路人倒没有惊奇。出故宫,有外客在景山公园问是否需门票”“。溪不想上山。你去,我在山下等你。一脸期待。景山有粗旷的地方,差点摔下来,我拍了几张照片,和其他中国的山丘并不不同,安静干枯。虽然40多度,却没太热,与干燥有关。

出颐和园的地铁站时韩国旅行团从身边经过,溪搭在我的肩膀走路,是干燥的热,只要喝水就能忍住,韩国人来中国旅行似乎都带宽檐帽,凉鞋。针叶林的花坛没有树荫,颐和园外有点像沙漠。你会忘记我吗正是夕阳下山的时候,人来人往的石路上,不会。我答到

溪喜欢看航拍中国的纪录片,总叫我也看,真漂亮。他喜欢看漂亮的酒店和名人的房子,也许是想安定下来,像海子的诗里写的一样。倒也是,喜欢看海子与顾城的诗,有德国早期浪漫主义的精神,但他们的精神世界都不太愉快,连浪漫派的德国诗人也是。看美国有作家写艺术家作为苦痛的榜样,不禁惘然若失,一笑。有次在电视听到人民群众对美好生活的向往。虽是在平常不过的话,但觉得也很平实。我曾看过一个纪录片,是一位独身的老人,虽然坚强,可我看了很伤心,我不能一个人。溪对我说。

路过使馆区,有家波斯餐馆,人来人往,各国旗帜飘扬,错以为在古代的长安。其实我也怕。看华盛顿邮报报道美国农村的孤寡老人,照片中神色暗淡,也不难想他们觉得让美国再次伟大是最后希望,虽然是最道地的民族精神,可人总需要一种依靠。

喜欢坐公交车,看车窗外行人来来往往,正在最美的年纪,歌曲在最美的片段,戴着墨镜,留下的眼泪也不太担心。有多少恨就有多少爱。宇喜欢唱五月天的温柔。大学寝室可以看到天主堂的十字架,上坡路,每次归途,都像登山,反倒很快乐。

大学在郊外,去市中心需1个小时,反倒像去另外的城市,每次归途,车上的人都睡眼朦胧。宇喜欢听张悬的《宝贝》。我要窒息了,车上的人都不开窗。虹林对我说,是冬天的时候,没人开窗,怕冷。末班车,下车的话,后果不可想象,荒山野岭,长路漫漫,不知归途。我要下车了,不然我活不下去了。师傅,下车。虹林不停的喘气,终于好了些,实在是忍不住她回过气来办法比困难多,她说道。拦了面包车回程,车上寂然,拥挤,汗味,算最本真的生活,虽然冒险,却很快乐。有次在归程的末班车上听到《宝贝》是宇最喜欢的歌,起初以为是谁的手机响了不接,后来才知是汽车广播,但车上没有人做声,路过的街灯明明暗暗,像最粗糙的蒙太奇,却是最震撼的画面,我看着车窗上自己的倒影,以为青春可以永远都在,是最痛苦的梦想,因为不想失去它,所以这一刻永远都记得。

喜欢年轻的时候还是年老的时候?”“这是什么问题,当然是年轻的时候。我的祖母听到这问题,微笑着说。老了就是精力不及从前了最喜欢夏天,是精神最好的时候。海明威记忆中的非洲,阳光明媚刺目,狮子在海岸徘徊。

自己的夜光

“你是否觉得我们可以教人去爱?” 许久的沉默“不能”一位母亲回答。“也许我们只能让人习惯于某种联系,但不能教他去爱。爱就是爱,当然他永远都是我的儿子,但我不能教他去爱。”是美国公共广播的采访。听后总觉得很寂然,也似这拉长的沉默一般。

电影中,来自美国丹佛的邮递员去巴黎度假,已然五十有余,独有一条小狗相伴,“麻烦请问有餐馆推荐吗”当地人友善的推荐了家中餐馆,走过巴黎熙攘的公园,深夏的巴黎像梵高的向日癸,炽烈,清然,“我独身一人,却在这个时刻,突然觉得,我爱你,巴黎。“她反不像五十岁,像二十岁。最深爱的一刻。人老了,心为身缚,成了时间的俘虏。”我现在二十岁。“一位老人说,”身体是我的牢房。“

王摩诘有诗云“语笑且为乐,吾将达此生。”无人的时候,一个人看书,看到同感之处也不禁微笑,那么容易满足,有些不敢相信。重读红楼梦时,总被香菱的达观感动,为学诗而借书学习,算浪漫的人生,谁又能说中国人不懂浪漫,虽算最痛切的一种,浪漫给自己看。

“你是否觉得我们可以教人去爱?” 许久的沉默“不能”一位母亲回答。“也许我们只能让人习惯于某种联系,但不能教他去爱。爱就是爱,当然他永远都是我的儿子,但我不能教他去爱。”是美国公共广播的采访。听后总觉得很寂然,也似这拉长的沉默一般。

这世界总有阳光照不到的角落,许多个夜晚,夜光照进窗来,想,这世界上的误会这样多,实在是懒得去解释,也许不过意的事情立刻就该说出来,不然只是徒然伤情。

偶然看到“网络消失(Ghosting)”指觉得不合适但不说,只是沉默不做声,这当然是网络时代的新现象。或许觉得连说”我们不合适“的必要都没有?爱情当然没有那么容易,不过在礼仪缺乏的时代,许多不必要的自痛,也许可以免了,算是预防针。真正爱的人总不会不联系太容易失去联系,爱与不爱,也不是这么快,转瞬之间,总是早已有了底。也许生命里的相遇只是数学上两条直线的交点,再想起,也当然是最美最特别的点。

“喜欢看你微笑时候的样子”曾有人对我说。

武汉夜雨中

在北京的旅店,夜静,听歌曲忧愁的暖光,迷迷糊糊的睡着了,好像梦见了以前的事,醒来也快乐了很久。

春风吹过身边的时候,武汉下起了夜雨。

心里涌过一阵巨大的浪,还是熟悉的氛围,武汉当时有许多的建设项目,归途中经过某个工地也很寻常,有位韩国朋友见状总是不停摄像。

一路走来,独我一人,也许因为路边是农业大学的缘故,围栏里是作物。这是武汉吗,像空城,路边有个抗议的牌匾。

宇带我去一个商场吃饭,有露台,走到露台的入口,红色到蓝色的灯带洒在身上,以为到了太平山顶观光项目

路上车来车往,轰——轰——

“武汉就是车来车往的声音,震撼人心,我听到反倒觉得心安。”

宇微笑没有做声。夜雨停了,也算生命里清冽,平淡的瞬间,背着电脑和相机,走了那么久,也不太累。习惯了武汉的景象,安静中又有些吵闹,偶尔拥挤也不太孤独。

人海里,来来往往,似乎嫌太拥挤,不过也不太孤独,这么多人还活着。

在北京的旅店,夜静,听歌曲忧愁的暖光,迷迷糊糊的睡着了,好像梦见了以前的事,醒来也快乐了很久。

窗外胡同里是刺痛的冷光,灿烂的冬阳。

北国的冬季倒没下雪。快五月了,武汉还像冬天一样,今年倒是这么冷。

割成碎片,留下斑驳的,灰色的阴影。楼下面是绿色的田地,不远处是,阳光照不到的角落。

你一定记得,我写在纸上的那句“Je t’amie”,或不记得。夏日的晚风吹过耳边的时候,我站在匆忙的街衢上,等待着。寂然的湖边,飘拂的柳叶,湖面上夕阳温柔的倒影,生命也像无尽的等待,回眸中,一句“在看一次?这夕阳。” 这么久,好像也看不太厌。

夜幕下的远方,高速公路上的车灯照亮着公路,来来往往,黑暗里的灯光线,像火柴划过的印记,也许太黯淡,照不太亮沉寂的夜空。也似无名的爱温暖不了黑暗中里寂静的角落。

远方的楼梯,粉笔灰在墙上写着不知道的电话号码,红色防坠的铁丝网,把下午的阳光切割成碎片,留下斑驳的,灰色的阴影。楼下面是绿色的田地,不远处是,阳光照不到的角落。

从此无人的夜里,我睡不着也醒不来。